Lying in children
Lying in children is a problem many are Suffer of, found them shout and say what’s the appropriate solution to this problem ?!
But, many of us do not know that lying at the age of 4-5 years is just a confusion between fantasy and reality and shows that mixing the imagination and the privacy of the child.
There are several types of lies, including:
Lying for ownership : Child is lie because he wants to have a something.
Traditional lying : The lying in this kind is the tradition of the people who live with him in the house like a father, mother and .....
Lying fear of punishment : the escape from the punishment of the child in the incidence of error, by lying ...
Retaliatory lie : attributing the child tries to charge it fell to someone else ..
Said lying : and arise as a result of the shortage of the Child, in the presence of things not found ..
Here are some reasons why the child is lying
May be a child's imagination is large and loving accounts shall enter the child in Compose and mixing fantasy with reality, have believed that he protects himself from punishment, or there's nothing could harm him, concern for the child and the lack of attention the child paid to lie even attracts the attention of parents to him,
Finally here are some solutions that may help to solve the problem of lying in children:
- Try to encourage the child to say the truth, and give him a gift for this.
- If lying has become a habit at the child, Always reminder him with punishment and what will receive from God when he lie.
- Try to estimate possible like to be set an example for him, and not lie front of the kid in any form, even if very simple.
- If lying is mixing fantasy with reality, try to let him tell you that then or drawn or written.
- Finally away from the hitting because he is not a way to teach children good behavior.
- Stop asking what you already know. Saying "Did you do this?" when you know he did is just giving him a chance to lie.just say what you know very clearly. You know the truth, tell the truth and punish what has to be punished. Playing with that truth can only bring confusion.
- Don't be angry, don't yell at your kid when you catch him lying or discover he lied. Your anger is the very reason why your kid is lying, what he wants to avoid by all means. Reacting with anger can only push him to keep lying. So keep your voice low and ask why he lied. He needs your help getting rid of this behavior.
- If your child is making up stories and have a lot of imagination, don't try to make him stop. His imagination is a very good thing. Still, you need to teach him the difference between what is real and what is pretended. You can set aside times for imaginary play to make him stop telling lies when he's not playing.
- Always insist on what honesty and truth can bring (trust, independence...) and what lies bring too (no punishment until the truth is found and eventually more privileges taken away as the truth is always found).
- When your child tells a lie, give him a chance to reconsider his answer and to take 5 seconds before answering. Give him that chance to stop his habit with no consequences for him if he says the truth right after. Reward his efforts toward being truthful.
